There’s a thin line between sensual, sexual, and genital bodywork treatments. In fact, they all address our sexuality, but in different ways. Let’s take a look at the perceived differences.
Sensual treatments – often referred to as erotic treatments – primarily focus on sexual pleasure and release, de-stress, and relaxation. They may work with the genitals or may not, depending on the type of commercial offering. Today, you’ll find many establishments specializing in this kind of treatment, often with sessions of ‘Tantric’ massage (also called Tantra massage), either being real authentic Tantra massages or not, sensual oil massages, erotic four hands massages, Japanese Nuru massages – with or without a so-called Happy Ending – and the like.
Traditional Sexual treatments address our sexuality in a general sense, that is, try to heal our suppressed sexuality and sexual traumas, promote our womanhood or manhood, our sexual vitality and energy, and so on. These kinds of treatments are rather therapeutic and not necessarily engage physically with the genitals. Sometimes we’re not even touched by the therapist, although the sessions can influence our genital organs indirectly. Think of talks, counseling, psychological work, massage and energy work like, for instance, Acupuncture, Yoni and Lingam Massage, Reiki and Qigong.
Genital treatments work directly with or for our genitals – the uterus, vagina, ovaries, prostate, testicles, and penis. They don’t usually work exclusively with the genitals, but also with the area around those, like with or in the abdominal area, the groin and inner thighs, the perineum and anus, often also addressing the blood vessels and nerves that nurture or stimulate our hormonal system and genitals. Genital treatments aim at resolving sexual dysfunctions and issues, bring about emotional and sexual trauma release, and in some cases also sensual or erotic pleasure, and even orgasms. Examples are Karsai Nei Tsang, Jabkasai, Rendam-rendam, Urut Batin Malay Manhood Massage, to name some treatment modalities.
It’s important to recognize that one kind of treatment doesn’t automatically exclude another one – many modalities address sexual, sensual and genital elements. For instance, a therapeutic genital massage can stimulate profound emotional or trauma release working on the overall experience of our sexuality. In contrast, to give another example, a treatment that starts rather sensually can later on in a session address the genitals more directly with the goal to resolve sexual dysfunctions, such as premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunctions.
In any case, it’s always essential for both client and therapist to know what exactly the goals, procedures, and expectations of a session are. This will avoid embarrassing or perhaps even traumatic misunderstandings.