There’s a thin line between sensual, sexual, and genital massage & bodywork treatments. In fact, they all address our sexuality, but in different ways. Let’s take a look at the perceived differences.
Sensual treatments — often referred to as erotic treatments — primarily focus on sexual pleasure and release, stress relief, and relaxation. They may work with the genitals or may not, depending on the type of commercial offering. Today, you’ll find many establishments specializing in this kind of treatment, often with sessions of Tantric Massage (also called Tantra Massage), either being real authentic Tantra massages or not, Sensual Oil Massages, Erotic Four Hands massages, Japanese Nuru massages — with or without a so-called Happy Ending or Full Service — and the like.
Sexual treatments address our sexuality in a general sense, that is, they try to heal our suppressed sexuality and sexual traumas, promote our womanhood or manhood, our sexual vitality and energy, and so on. These kinds of treatments are rather therapeutic and not necessarily engage physically with the genitals. Sometimes we’re not even touched by the therapist, although the sessions can influence our genital organs indirectly. Think of talks, sexuality counseling, intimacy coaching, Abdominal Massage, psychological work, massage and energy work like, for instance, Acupuncture, Yoni and Lingam Massage, Reiki and Qigong.
Genital treatments work directly with or for our genitals: the uterus, vagina, cervix, ovaries, prostate, testicles, and penis. They don’t usually work exclusively with the genitals, but also with the area around those, like with or in the abdominal area, with the pelvic floor muscles, the groin and inner thighs, the perineum and anus, often also addressing the blood vessels and nerves that nurture or stimulate our hormonal system and genitals. Genital treatments aim at resolving sexual dysfunctions and issues, bringing about emotional and sexual trauma release, promoting fertility, but in some cases also aim at stimulating sensual or erotic pleasure, and even orgasms. Examples are Karsai Nei Tsang, Jabkasai, Rendam-rendam, Maya Abdominal Massage, Urut Batin Malay Manhood Massage, to name some treatment modalities.
It’s important to recognize that one kind of treatment doesn’t automatically exclude another one — many modalities address sexual, sensual, erotic and genital elements. For instance, a therapeutic genital massage can stimulate profound emotional or trauma release working on the overall experience of our sexuality. In contrast, to give another example, a treatment that starts rather sensually can later on in a session address the genitals more directly with the goal to resolve sexual dysfunctions, such as premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunctions.
In any case, it’s always essential for both client and therapist to know what exactly the goals, procedures, and expectations of a session are. This will avoid embarrassing or perhaps even traumatic misunderstandings.