Maybe you find a Prostate Massage somewhat painful or unpleasant to perform on yourself, or maybe you are unsure of how to do it. In these cases, you may ask a professional therapist to perform the massage for you.
A Prostate Massage is a very intimate and emotional type of bodywork, and choosing the right therapist is of great importance to avoid traumatic experiences on one side and to get the best out of what a Prostate Massage can offer you on the other side.
Mind also that prostate massages are not regulated, which implies that anyone can give a session, qualified professionals, specialists and non-specialists included.
The first choice you need to make is if the Prostate Massage is intended rather for healing benefits or for sensual and sexual pleasure. This already guides to what kind of therapist you’ll need to look for.
Within Tantra and Taoist settings there are differences in the way a Prostate Massage is approached: it can be given as a physical healing session, as a purely Sensual Erotic Massage treatment, rather as a means to work on sexual and trauma release, or as work that focuses on sexual energies and spiritual growth.
Sessions can take fifteen minutes to several hours, all depending on the type and goal of the Prostate Massage and on the particular practitioner. Naturally, prostate massages that are not done stand-alone, but are part of a more complete, full-body massage treatment session, will take longer, typically somewhere between an hour and three hours.
Important aspects of choosing a therapist are: his or her certification and/or qualification, clear communication, mutual consent, hygiene, and understanding what exactly the massage therapist will offer (or intends to offer). The therapist can be male or female depending on your own preference.
Qualification of a Prostate Massage Therapist
It’s perhaps best to choose a session with a qualified massage practitioner. This may be a certified Sexological Bodyworker, Physician, Somatic Sexuality Bodyworker, Professional Sex Worker, Taoist or Tantra Massage Specialist. Of course, you can also get a recommendation from someone you trust.
It doesn’t mean that therapists that don’t have an official certification or qualification are not good at their work, but, certainly when starting out with Prostate Massage, it’s better to first be on the safe side. That is, it’s advised to do research about the background and official qualifications of a practitioner before booking a session.
Research includes checking out the therapist’s website and social media, reading what they write about giving a Prostate Massage, or maybe even watching some videos of the practitioner if those are available. It’s important that you have a good feeling about what the practitioner intends and “radiates.”
If you have questions about the practitioner, the session, or about your needs, you can always reach out by email, chat, or call. You can also ask for a consultation before a session (for instance, online via Skype or Zoom) to pre-build a relationship and establish trust.
Consent, that is, reaching an agreement about what will happen during the session, safety, and the boundaries of a session are of primordial importance. These topics need to be discussed before the session.
Perhaps it goes too far to sign a “session contract” or consent form, but that may certainly be an option. Another option that can be built in to ensure a safe session is to agree on a so-called safe word, which is a word you agree on with the practitioner, which, when said, will immediately stop the session.
In any case, it’s always good to discuss safety and boundaries before the actual session starts.
Hygiene and Environment
Hygiene is of course imperative to avoid infections, and also simply to have a comfortable feeling. The place where you will receive a session needs to looks fresh and clean, and preferably there’s a facility to take a shower.
The massage therapist needs to be clean and work safely (for instance use gloves for internal work). Nevertheless, a hygienic environment and working style is often something you can only really assesses when meeting the therapist. But if things are not as they should be, you should just cancel the session and leave.