Erotic massages — aka adult massages — can be very pleasant and relaxing sensual experiences, but at the same time it’s important to be aware of some of the risks involved. Taking the right measures makes sure you won’t be left with a “headache” or worse.
Expectations and Disappointments
Make sure you get what you are looking for. Assumption is the mother of all f*ckups, as the saying goes, so it’s important to know what you can expect.
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For instance, is mutual touch allowed? Will you both be in the nude, or only you? Is a happy ending and/or full service offering included, and what exactly is involved in those?
If — during the session — the practitioner offers you extras that were not included in the service specification, ask what exactly you will get and what the extra costs will be before accepting those.
Description of erotic massage service offerings are often somewhat vague and therefore it’s advised to ask beforehand for clarification if something is not clear. This will avoid misunderstandings and embarrassing or even traumatic issues for both you and the massage practitioner.
Hygiene and STI Prevention
Hygiene and cleanliness are crucial to ensure a comfortable experience, and moreover — to avoid infections. This is particularly important for nude massages, body-to-body massages, or those involving touch of your body’s erogenous and intimate zones.
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It would be preferred if both you and the practitioner would take a shower or bath beforehand — especially if you will have body-to-body contact — to better ensure cleanliness of your bodies. If internal work is performed, such as Prostate Massage, Vaginal Massage, or Anal Massage, the practitioner should be using lubricants and thin medical gloves.
In addition, professional massage service providers should always work with disposable sheets or bedding, or at any case follow clear sanitizing protocols to ensure that the tools and equipment they use — including sex toys — are clean and/or disinfected.
Nevertheless, keep in mind that some sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can spread through genital skin-to-skin contact (even if you’ve both showered beforehand), which may be a risk if the genitals come into contact with each other. Therefore, it’s always advised to use a condom, even if there will be no happy ending or sexual intercourse.
Privacy and Legal Aspects
Make sure that your session is really private. Don’t allow recording of the session, either in audio or video. Be discreet with your personal information.
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Generally, professional and legal massage therapy establishments don’t have mirrors in their rooms, so ask to have mirrors covered if there are, as sometimes mirrors can be see-through from the other side.
Giving or receiving sensual erotic massages may have legal issues connected to them, especially if a session contains some sort of sexual gratification.
However, it’s a difficult domain to be absolutely clear about, because it depends on the laws of a country or even state, province, or city how they classify erotic massages (being prostitution or not, for instance), if they are allowed, and if so — what exactly is allowed in a session or not.
The best advice I can give is to meticulously check on the applicable laws on sexual offenses in the place/country you want to receive a sensual erotic massage session, and check if the specific type of massage and the service provider comply with the given law.
