We probably all know this famous question “Business or pleasure?” To be accurate, it’s often preceded by another question — “What brings you here?”
Today, when it comes to intimate love relationships, the answer is very often: business and pleasure. It’s become a business to get pleasure.
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We want something out of the relationship. Pleasure. And the business is that we give some sort of pleasure back. It’s a trade.
Of course, it needn’t necessarily be the same you get which you give. But what we give and take need to have the same value.
My question is, if that’s the real meaning of “having a relationship.” Is it about give and take? To be honest, I don’t think so. I rather think it’s about sharing.
Sharing good and bad times, sickness and health, sharing cries and laughters, sharing hurting and suffering, and surely … sharing pleasure also, which finally all come to sharing lives.
But what does that mean?
It means that you love that other person that much, that you want to be with that person as much as possible. It means that both try to arrange their lives in such a way that they can be together as much as possible.
Why? Because you want to see that person, hear this person, feel this person, talk to that person, touch this person as much as you can. Not because of the pleasure that gives, but because of all that making your spirits high, making a better you, a stronger you, a you where the other pulls out the best of you. And .. because you love that person no matter what.
That’s not pleasure! And that’s not business! That’s wanting to be there where you’re happy, where you feel peace, where you can express yourself in a beautiful, uninhibited way, that’s saying thanks in a million ways to that other person, who — by their presence — make you feel that way.
So, “What brings you here? Business or pleasure?” My answer would be: “Love!”
