Let’s be real! Of course you don’t become “one” with the recipient. How could you?
However, what can happen is a temporary discontinuity of judgement. When that happens, properties disappear, appearances become fluid. Things are just there. And in that particular sense—persons, identities can disappear. Temporarily.
It doesn’t happen every session. And it doesn’t happen a whole session necessarily. Actually, most of the time it doesn’t happen at all. There are just these moments. Shorter or longer. It can happen to both recipient and practitioner simultaneously or only to one of them—or to both on different moments. One can’t predict. One can’t say.
When judgement is suspended, and I would say that it happens despite of everything—there is this experience which is no experience at all. It is what it is. Just something there without any judgement. Without properties accordingly. But how and why it happens seems to be wrapped in some kind of mystery. It’s a non-volitional phenomenon. It happens. Despite of.
And maybe it’s born out of some profound intuition or of many years of experience. Maybe it’s the firm conviction of equality or even of absolute non-equality for that matter. Or the fact of a myriad, a million of different appearances in which we acknowledge no good or evil, right or wrong, better or worse.
But whatever I say, finally indeed, we’re blind, blindfolded like Lady Justitia and obliged to admit—we don’t know really.